I have lately found myself being something I am usually not. Vague. Hidden. Keeping big things suppressed and to myself (I KNOW, what is THAT? 😉 ). Obsessively talking about things that don’t matter to cover up the all the noise that is in my heart and head (‘oh so THAT’S why you won’t SHUT UP!!!’, says the husband… 😉 ). Joking about packing up the boys, buying a yurt, and moving to Colorado.
So.dead.serious. If the opportunity presented itself, I would do this. In a heartbeat. Opportunity, go ahead and knock. I freaking dare you…
Because despite my best intentions of being a together and all feeling yet present and in touch and deeply connected and breathing in and out with my Lord sort of person, I’m kind of suffocating. Not like ‘panic attack’, whoa is me, the end is near sort of suffocating — because that was SO last year 😉 …
But that ‘had enough’, ready to close the chapters — all of them — and move on to an entirely different book sort of suffocating.
My husband simply thinks it’s a nervous breakdown. A midlife crisis of sorts. I know myself better. I’ve had lots of those 😉 . Those are freaking nothing. We INFJ’s have those for breakfast. This is more. This is awakening. This is not wanting to sleep through my life anymore. This is so far from being tired. So far from being exhausted. So far from being used up. This is so far from being aware of the bullshit. This is just being done. Plate’s full and I’ve had so much more than enough, thank you. Here it is — you can have it back — washed, sparkly clean, because this sister is moving on without taking anything else you have to dish out in this perimeter of my existence, life.
A few weeks ago, who’s counting? Time has been one giant cluster of no sleep and that cry praying where you’re talking to God and listening and breathing him in so close that you feel held but yet he’s still just too damn far away. Sometimes I long for home so much it viscerally hurts. I went to look for a few books and papers and binders full of information I had saved concerning autism and other things from education and behavioral psychology classes at Simpson and some journaling I had done while working at Westminster House and teaching a few preschool kiddos at Methodist as this new preschool year began — to brush up on a few things. All of this was in a gigantic tote of my personal stuff I didn’t quite know where to put or what to do with but felt I should keep. So, I dug it out of the basement and opened it up. Part of me wishes I hadn’t…
Also in it were all of my diaries and journals. I started keeping one when I was a tiny seven — so close to Griffyn’s age (the connection gripped me and held me and the same grip squeezed when I hit ‘my age’ at Max’s age for the entire time I read). I named my journals at the beginning — they were “friends.” Feels sad just writing that. About ten to fifteen bound books — all various pieces of me. Also sheets and sheets of poetry–some typed some scribbled, and books I had written when I was little through high school (really quite terrible — not being humble — they are awful). And magazines I had created with mock interviews with created people, fashion editorials, complete with ads. I thought I was a designer too? Not really, I just loved to draw and write and pretend to be a journalist 🙂 . And letters. So many letters. And everything from graduation –both high school and college — and all the letters from teachers that wrote in to scholarship committees for me (I applied to at least 100 or more 😉 — paying for college yourself is tough, friends 🙂 , when you pay for the everything else of life for yourself too 🙂 ). These letters from teachers were the first thing I read. And it was all downhill from there, I guess you could say. I just lost it. I couldn’t take the beautiful words. Why did they hurt so freaking bad? And why didn’t I know this about myself or remember ANY of this?
“If I had had daughters instead of sons, I would be quite fortunate to have a daughter with all of the attributes that Angela possesses…” what the hell?
The letters from previous bosses, friends from all.of.the.places from which we had moved, teachers I had kept in contact with (I had such an incredibly close relationship with my teachers), and the friends I still call my sisters today. Dammit. They were all such gorgeous words. I was not this person they all said I was!!! I was not this person… (Summer, Kari, love you…)
I looked at the stacks of journals looming in front of me. Part of me felt like vomiting. I had never actually sat down and went through them all–consciously, present, on purpose, for real. Seven years old. That’s so little. I was literally shaking.
I think, no, I’m lying with that ‘think’ word — I KNOW — that a huge part of me hopes that everything in that “then” box I keep in my brain was actually better than I remember. That my mother was right, that I cast a darker shadow on that past place than actually was — because that’s human nature, right? And that’s what little kids and adolescents and people in their twenties do… And who can trust therapists that ‘help’ you dig up your memories, right? Hypnosis and REM (rapid eye movement) therapy is just weird and probably does strange stuff to your brain that isn’t right or trust worthy at all. I mean, all of those highly trained professionals probably even “suggested” some stuff to you and then you just “remembered it that way, Ang”. It really wasn’t THAT bad at all. It’s just you. It’s always been just you. In fact, it’s just you period.
And it would make sense — because everyone else seems to be just fine. I’m clearly the one that’s the most fucked up. Still struggling. Still quite awful and has so.many.issues (get over them already, would you?) and has to be told how it “really was” despite having lived it and been there–you know, for all of my actual living of it.
And my mother would often tell me when I was so confused by the chemistry and connection of this mother and daughter relationship that is so difficult for me to grasp, but I will forever in relentless faith forge ahead — trying, always trying — to maintain, to carve in the love that I have learned and know how to give in my own way from an eternal Father– that when I was younger she and I had an “understanding”. And I must have. Because I don’t know how a person could let a monster do what a monster does and just stand there. Just watch it. Just be present and do so little to stop it — or at the very least, weaken its course. But we were all doing the best we could, alright? I swallow that — choke on it sometimes — but I swallow that and I let it burn all the way down until my insides consume it. Because I want to believe it. I want to believe it so badly. But some of us were children, and some of us were grown ups…
And I open, page one of me — it’s my birthday, I am seven, and I just ‘got my ears pirced’ and bought this little lavender unicorn and rainbow diary with money I got from Grandma Sundsvold. The rest my parents kept. And I was in the basement with all of these memories for the rest of the day. Losing my ever loving mind. I came up for tea. Only for tea. And it sucked more than my worst nightmares. Because not only was it just as bad as I remember, loves, it was freaking worse. Dammit. Dammit all to hell.
And it wasn’t just my family that bled in those pages, in those books. It was Marty’s too. His mom. My marriage. All.of.that.shit.too. Because I walked from one inferno of crap, and was just finally finding the recourse to heal from through therapy — so.much.therapy –that I didn’t need to set myself on fire to save my family — but was still simmering — and just learning the everythings of all of that (I can’t even tell you what all of that is like — there aren’t words — your world isn’t even turned upside down, so much — it’s more like you just constantly wake up in a completely different version of hell and acclimate as best you can to who you thought you were and what you thought was real) — and I walked into a family where someone had a gallon of gasoline and yet another set of matches –ready to take full advantage of someone she saw was broken — yet she plays the savior AND the victim both at the same time. And while I’ve forgiven her, I’m still wracked by the betrayal of the person who let it happen, who KNEW her — who was supposed to protect me — who was supposed to respect, love, honor, and cherish me. Who I was supposed to be good enough for (God, would I ever be good enough for anybody?). And I’m so freaking over blaming myself when I was the only voice for so long who would stand up to the truth of that situation–which incited a secret family meeting all about me (in which I wasn’t invited and Marty wasn’t privy to the agenda–and the agenda was full of bullshit).
And yet I still apologized for my part. Conceded to the very few things that were actually true that were said. She admitted to nothing. She hoped I would lay down and die, I think, feel completely over powered by her and accept all of her crap as fact — be the target and move on. But I still believed in God and what was right. I always had. She forgot that. She didn’t really know me. Just the version she wanted me to be. The doormat. And I wouldn’t take her saying things that weren’t true about me. I wouldn’t agree to that. I couldn’t believe that she was basically laying out everything that SHE was on to me. It was so insane. I had loved her so much. I had called this woman Mom. I had started to question some things and I had started to question her and had asked if she could stop being so negative (mentioned in several journal entries) about several family members (including her son). And this is what happened. This meeting. All about me. She even blindsided and was dishonest about what the meeting was about to my husband. It was so surreal. If I would have been a different person then, I would have walked away from her and all of the insanity then. But in the grand scheme of how I had been treated my entire life, this was actually kind of “normal”…
Marty and I decided not to lay all of her garbage out for everyone (she talked about it all to him too — it wasn’t just to me), instead we simply asked her to stop lying. We gave her a huge second chance. I don’t know that she necessarily thought of it in that regard. And we continued to go to family functions — but paired it down a bit. This was an eye-opening experience of the very biggest kind. Yet the bs continued. Really crazy shit happened. Things that made me go into the bathroom and vomit crazy shit happened — then she would cry, and it would always be my fault and something I did and would need to apologize for because she was just trying to be a good mother and grandma. And I fought on. An army of one. For so many years. Till I got stronger. And then I finally said enough. I realized I was worth more than this, even if I wasn’t to my husband or to this family — I was to me and to what I was teaching my children what family was. I was for two boys who were watching all of this. And I had been through this all before. And I deserved respect. I deserved honesty. And I could not live my life without those things ever again. And asking for those things was never, ever asking for too much. Not because I was an amazing person — but because I was a child of God. And so was she. So she claimed to be. So she was able to do those very things she claimed she was. And I would hold her accountable.
And it was so incredibly important to me what my children were seeing and hearing in all of this. We are love. And love is action. A person doesn’t get to abuse you because they are family. They don’t get to lie about you and crap all over you because they are a certain word in your apparent circle of blood ties — it doesn’t give them a free pass to degrade you. We stand up for one another. We say, no, this isn’t okay — and we honor and we respect one another. All of us. So, even though I was solo once again, I wasn’t afraid. It didn’t matter to me what anyone else thought or what anyone else said. And I really wasn’t alone. Because I was NEVER alone. I had learned that much in my life. God would be my strength. And he is bigger than any narcissist — however many tears they shed, however many lies they spread, and however altruistic and wonderful they appear to be to others. No one really knows what we’re going through in this. And there that all was. Incident after freaking incident, letters, all that crap, staring back at me. Journal after journal. That was, and is, so very real too.
And it all came crashing in. This.
That I am so tired of surviving people. I am so tired of surviving my life.
(I don’t mean to sound ungrateful or unthankful. My life is FULL of beautiful and amazingly gorgeous relationships! I am innately blessed. I am. Please understand this. This was my initial overwhelming feeling after all.of.this.)
Usually when someone says they feel they have lived a full life, it is full of adventure, travel, incredible and fantastical things, yes? The oddity and absurdity of me is that I feel that I have lived so.many.lives. It has been so full. I feel it has been TOO full. It’s not so much all of the moving or all of the incredible amount of people I have met and places — nothing so extravagant as oceans away — but the complexity of survival that has completely worn me. It’s the before and after of who you are. The contrast of who that person was, yet all the people you carry with you (the you’s of you — and the people you have to say goodbye to, the real ones 🙂 ). Because I loved all of those people so hard. I did. All of them.
Reading through teacher cards and notes, I was struck by the fact that in so many respects I was kind of raised by my teachers. I know this is why I wanted to be one so badly. Their impact on my life was not missed. I loved them so much and I truly felt their love for me. Out of all of the things I have forgotten or suppressed in my life, I remember so many of their names. This is telling to me. They were the ones who actually told me they were proud of me, they cared about me, and often — so very often — they were the ones that told me they loved me. From kindergarten all the way up to graduating from Simpson. And I may have forgotten it sometimes, but looking over all of this paper mess strewn everywhere — it was God’s way of telling me and reminding me through the people he created and graciously placed in my life journey that maybe I was okay, maybe I was something — when his voice was muffled by who my father told me was god. How absolutely AWESOME is our God?!?!??!?!?!??!?!??!?!? None of that had to happen. None.of.it.
And my teachers tried to help. They did. I was reminded of this in a diary of the fifth grade me. I was so scared because Mrs. Love — seriously her name was Mrs. Love ❤ — called my parents to let them know she was concerned about me. It all came rushing back. I remembered all of it (this.kept.happening — dear heaven, it was exhausting! the voices, the smells, the images!!!!). I was deeply anxious, seemed depressed and agitated and jumpy all the time. I was a perfectionist child and although she appreciated my hard work and eagerness to please, she wanted me to be able to relax and enjoy life too. She got me a little button (remember jean jackets and buttons? 😉 ) that said “take time to stop and smell the roses” — wrote my fifth grade self. My parents were furious and completely offended. My mother was exasperated and explained that I was “always just that kind of kid”. I even got sores on the inside of my mouth and had stomach aches all the time just because of stress, for goodness sakes. I was annoying, at best. And my father told her that “‘maybe she gave out too much homework and should stick to teaching and leave them to the parenting.’ (Non believers. They think they know everything. She’s going to hell.)”
And then there was that… Being told I was “just that kid” — the anxious kid, the kid that worried, the messed up kid, the kid that was sick all the time, the weird kid — and all the other traits and adjectives they would use when teachers wondered if I was okay. And it would progress to other things when I got older as I was reminded later on in different additions of me. My father and mother would tell family I had turned my back on God, was an ungrateful daughter (for all the things they had done for me — I was lucky to have such great parents!), I stole from them (my father was so convinced I had stolen the vacuum cleaner and taken it with me to college that he came banging on my door screaming for it and calling me all kinds of lovely names — great memories — thankfully I had an awesome RA right across the hall at Hamilton), was an alcoholic and a slut and other defaming words. Nothing that was true. Nothing that was remotely true. Anything to shame me and make me out to be this awful and crazy person. ‘Sometimes I wish I had the exciting life they said I led’ — that was actually a line in my journal… They never knew me. They never tried to get to know me. That would involve loving someone. I was fully aware of that and just how awful of a me I must have been for that transaction not to take place… They wanted to blot all of the me out of me.
So because of all of these pages that are me, I tend to see red when a kid consistently comes into our room with marks that he or she cannot explain. Or a kid is completely withdrawn and sad and guarded most of the time — or on the complete opposite end of the spectrum, often angry and defiant. And the parent(s) immediately have excuses or label the kids as this or that. It’s all neatly wrapped up in a box and tied with a bow. I may be over sensitive. I will completely and totally give you that. I will also give you that I get anxious in these scenarios. Because I was that kid. I.was.that.kid. I’m not bitter because no one tried to help me or be my voice. That’s not why at all. I get frustrated because some parents are so very good at silencing the voices who try to help. And we believe them. Because maybe we want to. Because maybe it’s just a little easier for us.
And the kids? Dear God I love them! ❤ Because despite what we tell them — that this is a safe place — that this is a place where you can tell us anything? What you can’t possibly know unless YOU HAVE BEEN THERE is that the wrath of home is a bazillion times worse than any “help” they’re going to get from us. And that’s their normal. Because it’s our normal. It’s our crew. It’s our family. And it’s betrayal to even wonder if it’s anything but what Susie or George have going on in their home, alright? It’s GOT to be what’s happening across the apartment hall. And I deserve it. I deserve all of it. Because if my own Mom and Dad don’t love me, who the hell does… Because what YOU don’t get is that you can’t just say the words “trust me” and it magically happens. You HAVE to grow it — you HAVE to SHOW me. And that takes time. That takes LOVE. It really does. It REALLY takes that LOVE word, okay? And for some of these kids? Well, they’re just not going to let you love them. They are going to be the most unlovable kids in the history of ever. And you’re just going to have to show them what love is — because what really, really sucks is when the people who are supposed to love you show you everything about what love ISN’T… So, stay there anyway. Please. Don’t give up on them. ❤
And that understanding my mother was talking about?
Over and over within all of those pages I questioned if my mother loved me. From the age of seven all the way till — if I’m being so completely and achingly honest, even sometimes now (I innately know she is truly doing the best she can and my ‘lack of’ is not her doing — she is giving all she can from her best place of giving). But I consistently wrote those words. I always thought I got something then that I didn’t now. Because I also knew and remembered that I stuck up for her. That’s all in there too. I didn’t like how he talked to her and made her feel less. And I wanted her to feel strong and smart and brave. I wrote those things too. So I couldn’t understand that when I wiped off the kitchen table and accidentally got crumbs on the floor and got the crap smacked out of me when I was just seven — for something I didn’t mean to do and wasn’t done with malicious ill intent — how getting a lecture on my sins and hell and physically “punished” was okay? Because that aggressive physical punishment came with putting myself in his way for her too — all the way through my twenties. And I kept doing it. Because she was my mom. At what point would it be enough that I was her daughter?
I was hoping to find that “understanding” that we had — that she had told me we had. I didn’t. I never did. Every single journal, over and over again — through all of the hell that was my father, I asked and I wondered if my mom loved me. And the interesting thing to me is that I never wondered if my father did. I knew he didn’t. He wasn’t capable. He just wasn’t. So why was I holding on to some shred of hope that my mother was? Was that the understanding?
And I prayed. And I did church. And I saw all the fallacy. Funny. Kids are so good at seeing dishonesty and bullshit, aren’t they? I think we are almost born knowing Jesus. We look at creation as tinies and we know something bigger and mightier and far more magnificent than us had to create all of this. THIS, this heaven and all the stars and all the butterflies and all things that make a tiny wonder don’t just happen. I think you have to work really, really hard to disparage faith in a kid. They know something, SOMETHING amazing is out there to whisper their hopes and dreams too — SOMETHING is holding the magic and miracles — there is SOMETHING MORE. I knew this. And I knew my father’s God and much of the church’s God wasn’t my God. I knew this because my father was the good guy at church — he was the BEST Christian. Because all that mattered was what you presented. Not what you actually lived. But the blessing that came from that, loves? Dear Jesus, I vowed every single day of my life to never be one of those people — and to rage, to rage against the Pharisees — to flip some freaking tables — and to try my very best to be love to people. Not fancy, ‘we’re better than everyone else’ love. But the tough as nails love that held Jesus to the cross. I would try. I would FAIL, but I would try. And that, all of THAT is very, very good…
And I lived in my bubble of books. And I wrote on pages in journals and named them and called them my friends. And I tried to take care of my sisters and I abandoned my Molly and Tim for college — at least that’s what I felt like. And I was going to run away as far as I could from this place. And yet I stayed. So close. Everyone else ran away.
And here I am. Wanting to run away again. Is this what they call coming full circle? For some reason, I don’t think this applies…
And in the midst of all this head stuff — the dark head stuff — life marches on. And sickness came (I think this dark head stuff makes me sick…). Who has time to heal physically, emotionally or spiritually these days? Life marches on. I’ve never been one to find comfort in that statement — it just seems to trample all over us.
And work is just hard this year. But I know there is so much hard in education right now. And I used to love a challenge. It meant purpose to me — never something I couldn’t do or wasn’t up for. But I find myself being more spent than purpose filled or purpose full. And wondering if I’m even doing the right thing by being where I am. I find myself full of questions. And crying out to God. And wanting things I shouldn’t and possibly couldn’t have — but knowing he is SO mighty so having the insanity and selfishness to ask for it anyway. Because he can and he could, so why not — not making any bargains with him THIS time — just asking ‘if it is your will’…
Yet fully understanding that his will for me isn’t necessarily mine. It may never be mine. And getting in a really good place with that. Because I have to. I really have to. Because I find myself getting really selfish lately in all of this tired. I want an easy button. Like that big red Staples button. Yes, I.want.that. Just once. I want to push it and whisk my boys and I away to the life “I” design. That’s pretty disgusting. This thought makes me want to puke. This is not how I think. So I know what this means. It’s time to read Jeremiah again. All of it.
Because Jeremiah reminds me that it’s not my beliefs that make me a different person or a new creation in Christ (the devil is pretty freaking fantastic at theology too, y’all — just sayin’ 🙂 ) — it’s KNOWING my God — it’s my personal relationship with him.
“‘Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man of his strength or the rich man boast of his riches, but let him who boasts boast about this: that he understands and KNOWS me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,’ declares the Lord.'” Jeremiah 9:23-24
Now, I’m not a boasting type of person — I’m too much of a mess and make WAY too many mistakes for that route (let’s just say, people would laugh — hard 😉 ) — but this verse is one I hold tight. I get wrapped up in my personal quest with “autonomous have it togetherness”. I think I must have it — I think I have to push through and be tough and be strong and take care of everyone and everything and fix it all and save the entire planet from drowning in calamity! Truly. I do. That’s how insanely I suck. And then I plummet into this black hole of things like having my doctor find bad moles on my back out of absolutely nowhere that need to be hacked out, lingering bronchitis proceeded by the flu for my G and I — all in the matter of a month or so and I try to kick all of it — and I fail — and I don’t feel strong or mighty and I feel like I’ve failed the Philippians verse of ‘I can do all things’ and so I’ve failed God too and I’ve failed those I care about who need me to DO those “all things”– but, dammit Ang, it’s not all about me. And here’s where I get so lost. It’s never about me. None of it.
It’s not about my past. It’s not even about my questions now. It’s about my God. It’s about understanding him. Loving him. It’s about how he loves me. And, it’s about his will for me. And what does that verse say above? What’s that? There’s a promise of sorts? Yes — yes, there is. God has SO MANY promises for us, doesn’t he? In fact, we ARE a promise! It says that he exercises kindness and justice and righteousness here.on.earth. What does that mean? It means a great many things. But in short and sweet terms for this girl it means, he is good. In all of life’s crap and agony, our God is good. There is a constant. There is one thing we can always understand and KNOW about our Father. Our heavenly father is always good. And the relationship, this understanding I have of him? That RADICALLY changes ME…
God speaks so often to Jeremiah about knowing him. Knowing him before he was formed in the womb. Setting him apart. Creating him for a purpose. Now, Jeremiah’s purpose wasn’t roses and rainbows and sunshine. It was pretty brutal. It was tough. And he wasn’t treated fairly or kindly and he went though some pretty heinous things. He was one heroic prophet. Did he sail through all of this smoothly without any human frailty? Nope. Of course not. And that is also what is so endearing to me about this man.
Now, I’m a crier. Tears seep out of me for absolutely everything. They just build up and my heart often speaks in tears. I can’t help it. Sometimes they stream down my face and I’m unaware until I feel wet stuff. It’s part of how I talk. And I love Jeremiah for his vulnerability . He cries. He laments. He even complains and wails from time to time. But does he give up? No. He remains faithful and steady to a God who gave him a purpose that he may not necessarily love — but it was given to him by a God he so fervently does. And he knows there will be building and planting after the uprooting and tearing down (Jeremiah 1:10). Hey, it’s another promise!
Working my way through Jeremiah, I cry too.
“Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” Jeremiah 33:3
I’ll keep calling, God. And even if I don’t have all the answers, I’ll keep walking with you. Because I know that knowing you and trying to understand you better everyday is what I’m here for. It’s what I’m breathing for. The rest you’ll lead me to. And you’ve gotten me through quite a bit so far. You must be holding me for a reason…
And maybe this surviving business is to help others see that they can too. That a rock and a hard place is somewhere you can hang for quite a while with faith. That words like “comfort” and “happiness” are kind of silly things when you have words like “faith, hope, and love”. You don’t need the other two. That joy CAN be found void of circumstance. Because you have a Father that created your soul — and it can sing and cry out to him. And that’s reason enough for joy, isn’t it. That answer is yes. It is a confident yes. ❤ And maybe it is to be a stronger siren and voice for littles that get lost in the shuffle of voices that say “oh, they’re fine” or “kids are resilient” or “he’s just a weird or bratty kid”. And maybe it’s to be the best mom I can be to two of the most amazing miracles a girl could ever dream a breath was possible to take for. Maybe it’s to help them understand the miracles and promises that THEY are in a world that desperately needs them to shine THEIR light, to help them struggle, to help them know and understand their God, to help them fail and succeed and be all the mess that God created them to be. To help them understand that they are forever and ever loved and held by a God that they will see one day after walking and knowing him here, in a kingdom we will all praise him in forever, and that their “this little light of mine” will get to shine forever with a Jesus that bought them with his blood and knew just how much their momma would need them someday (and that’s why she still cries sometimes when she kisses them goodnight and tells them that they are her hallelujah).
Maybe it is all of these things. Maybe it is none of these. Maybe it’s just living day by day in your grace, Lord, as the messiest mess that I am and giving you all of that glory.
Because as unworthy as I am to be called your daughter, you don’t mind that I’m crazy, that I am both too much of so many things and yet so very not enough of others. God, you love me anyway. And of all of the things I don’t understand — the trinity, sovereignty, salvation, and a giant host of others — this is one I don’t mind being lost in. I don’t mind swimming in its vastness, being covered in its mercy, being cloaked in its warmth. I’ll settle here forever, if you don’t mind. Till I stop breathing, and even after. ❤
And thank you. Thank you for teaching me about love. And I’m so grateful I get to learn about it from you everyday. And try to show the world what your love means. I know I won’t do it right or maybe even well, but Father, dear Father — by heaven , I will try. Thanks for letting me try. Because I know me, and I know YOU know me — and so that’s kind of huge.
But you’re also so very you (and that’s even huger) ❤ …
“Ah, Sovereign Lord, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and out stretched arm. NOTHING is too hard for you.” Jeremiah 32:17
Nothing. Even big messes like me.
Love you and thank you (even for nervous breakdowns, or what ever this is…),
This girl you created ❤